What Would You Do If You Lost Everything And Had To Start Again?

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Image you lost everything. Through some crazy twist of fate you lost your home, your children refused to speak with you and to top it all your boss announced your job is next in line for cut backs and early redundancies.
How would you cope? What would you do, would you give up, walk the streets and beg or find a way to resolve the issues which led to you being in this situation?

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Everyone goes through hard times

Everyone, no matter how rich, famous, and healthy undergoes some form of “challenge”. You can have financial challenges, health conditions or relationships difficulties. Human suffering is part and parcel of living. How you overcome your challenges, how you make amends and start anew is up to you.

Today’s post, is a poem, which I would like to share, which highlights how I got through one of my hard times.

You have a choice

Sometimes it may feel like no matter what you do you can’t get out of your situation and the way forward looks bleak. When your mind feels stuck and you can’t find a solution who can you turn to for support and advice. You have a choice. It may not feel like it, yet you do. And in that moment of recognising you have a choice, to stay where you are or do something about it, you give yourself permission to pick yourself up and start again.

Look Within

After losing my brother, my life went a bit wonky. At the time I remember talking to one of my teachers about “life” and wondering how can I move on and make sense of the madness taking place in my life. I wanted answers, yet no one could answer my questions in a way that made sense to me. I didn’t want theories and research answers about grief, all I wanted was peace and I wanted it now. I wanted to find a way to be at peace with my loss. My teacher said “look within, everything you need to know lays within”. I didn’t know what he was talking about and struggled for many months with this unfamiliar concept.

That was in 1997. We are now in 2011. Like you, my life constantly unfolds as I heal and learn to live with my loss and move on. Sharing my story is one way I know to heal and move on, for when you share, you inspire and encourage others going through their situation to have hope and belief that today will be a better day.

Hope you enjoy these few words and are encouraged to seek ways to move through your hard times.

A tribute to everyone who has assisted with my recovery

I am singing a joyful song,
Come around and listen
Come and hear the Good News
Come and join in my song.
…I am on the road to recovery…
I have healed the pains and sorrows of yesterday
I have overcome the despair of death
For today …I am on the road of recovery
So, come along and sing with me
La, la, la, la, la, R-E-C-O-V-E-R-Y la, la, la, la,
Here is how I recovered.
R – realigned myself with the Creator, I
E- eagerly engaged with life, I
C-came to acknowledge my beauty, I
O-opened my heart and allowed love in, I
V-verified myself, I
E-embraced myself with love, I
R-reclaimed my destiny, I
Y-yearned to be alive

Over the next few days, I will go into more detail about the exact steps I took on my journey of recovery but for now, let’s just celebrate our “hard times” and give thanks for the journey.
Have a beautiful day. And in true NextGoal style, each one teach one. So, feel free to share this post with your community so we can all share, heal and grow as we achieve our dreams.

Image, with thanks from Roly Mo – via flickr

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About Ntathu Allen

Yoga Teacher, Blogger and mum to three bubbly teens, I aspire to support, educate and encourage busy mums and working women to weave moments of calm into their hectic schedule.

About Ntathu Allen

Yoga Teacher, Blogger and mum to three bubbly teens, I aspire to support, educate and encourage busy mums and working women to weave moments of calm into their hectic schedule.


  1. As usual, great stuff Ntathu. I miss blogging with you!
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  2. I think that “I want peace and I want it now” point in the grieving process is where too many people get lost in the “quick fix” of drugs or alcohol – something, anything to dull the roaring agony of that void left by the loss of a loved one. It doesn’t work – just leaves them with bigger problems and messes to clean up, later – but doing the hard work of grieving, and having the patience and the strength to do it in the time it naturally takes, makes you more resilient.
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    • Yeap, so true. We live in a very I must have it now society. Timeless teachings and virtues, even the one you speak about in your recent Character of a Winner posts – thank you, please, opening doors, are fast dying out. True healing takes time, energy and commitment. A pill, alcohol, gambling, overtalking as you say, just covers the pain. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.