If you are the kind of person who believes in change, and works hard for doing so – you have goals. Fact is that most of us do. But are your goals born out of frustration or are they genuine goals that would make you a better person? We often tend to incorporate negative goals in our lives, which against our better intentions, hurt us instead of helping us.
Goal 1: My life is terrible, I need more money!
Goal 2: I can’t drive in the VW anymore, I need a BMW!
Can you see any problem with these goals? They are negative and motivated out of ‘need’ rather than ‘want’ of something better.
Negative goals can weigh you down; as they will feel like a heavy stone or a burden that you have to carry around. These goals are more likely to de-motivate you into submission, put a fear in your mind and force you to take unusual actions to reach your goal. Don’t believe me? Think about what’s bothering you the most. Then think about how you can resolve it? Do you think resolution is easy if you associate it with the negative aspect in your life that is hindering your progress?
A while back, I attend an Art of Living course, where the course emphasized the importance of peace of mind, love and humility. Quite often the teachers would tell us that in order to change, and do so successfully, we need to invite change, and not chase after it. Needing something often reeks of desperation, as many would agree. On the contrary, wanting something shows that we are ready for it, ready to bring it into our lives.
So what does it mean for your positive goals? If you have goals in life, actual goals that you WANT and not NEED, you can easily conceive them as positive goals. If we look at the goals that we discussed initially, they become:
Revised Goal 1: My life can be improved with some more money, and I look forward to working for it.
Revised Goal 2: I like my VW, but a BMW would be more suitable for me.
These goals are little wordier, but they define your intentions in a positive, feel-good manner. If you can restate all your goals in a positive fashion, do so now. This will allow you to invite more positive and appreciative thoughts in life.
So can you think of any goals that you can restate in a positive manner? Do you feel lighter after you do so? Feel free to share some of your goals here, I am very interested to see the effects of positive goal designs.
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