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It’s the Holiday Season and You Don’t Like Your Relatives: What To Do?

Yikes!

Christmas and RelativesChristmas is fast approaching. So while you pray for many gifts and shovel snow out of your driveway for the incoming platoon of visitors, there is one thing you probably stress about. Well, not just you, your whole family stresses about it!

Yes, I am of course talking about relatives.

Who can sincerely attest to the existence of fun-loving relatives? Can you? If you can, you are reading the wrong post (look at the title again!). But if you have trouble adjusting to sleeping in the store room and getting food served after the newcomers, these tips might help:

Be Cool

Goes without saying, right? It is a bit like the war zone – one wrong move and your mum will come down on you – harsh! (Think about Home Alone I).

Make sure that any action you take does not directly offend your relatives. They often come bearing gifts (they are the real version of Santa Claus). The last thing you want is to deny yourself the new iPad because you overreacted when they remarked about how slowly you are growing when compared to your cousins. Take it on the chin and just smile. If it gets unbearable, just excuse yourself for a few minutes, till you regain your composure.

Play Some Games

Not war games.

Just normal games.

Festive season usually brings out the best in people, even ahem…older ones. So bring out that old Monopoly board and get everyone involved. Scrabble and Trivial Pursuit are good too. And if you are really clever, you can impress your relatives with some cool answers!

Christmas is not a Turkey-eating competition

You won’t impress anyone with your mad-eating skills. So ease up on the turkey and enjoy it. This is one of the only days in the year when you can impress upon your relatives with your civilized eating habits. Jumping into ham with a sharp-edged knife will scare people away – it might even bring the ham back to life!

So don’t do it. Savor the meal and enjoy a nice discussion with all of the family members.

Avoid Confrontation

So Uncle Steve likes the republicans, whereas Auntie Smith prefers the democrats. Is it really worth spoiling your Christmas by bringing up politics? No matter how interested these discussions get, they most nearly end up into bitter arguments. So don’t discuss issues that might be confrontational. In fact, if you see someone drifting towards these ‘untouchable’ topics, just try and persuade them to change the topic, or play a game.

Limit Your Alcohol!

I kid! Drink to your heart’s content. But do not cross the limits beyond which you could lose your composure and say something that you or others might regret, or feel offended by. Festive seasons is joyous, but excessive drinking can ruin the fun for everyone. Don’t be that person. Just enjoy some nice mulled wine, but don’t overindulge.

Ease Up and Fall In

No one wants to be the party-pooper! Real control freaks within us come out in these family gatherings, where we want to make sure everything goes perfectly. Relax! Everyone is there to have a good time, and some accidents can happen. Just don’t try to control everything. By the same token, if you are told to fit in, try to. After all, it is only for a day, how bad can it be?

Is there a golden nugget I have missed? If so, please share in the comments section! Also, this is a good time to come out with embarrassing incidences that you might have encountered at these gatherings.

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About Neeraj Sachdeva

Neeraj is a life-geek, who enjoys talking about Psychology and Freelancing. His freelancing endeavor focuses on kick-starting start-ups and small businesses by using practical and timely experience. In his free time, he helps budding freelancers, and you can read about his journey on The Freelancer Diary.

About Neeraj Sachdeva

Neeraj is a life-geek, who enjoys talking about Psychology and Freelancing. His freelancing endeavor focuses on kick-starting start-ups and small businesses by using practical and timely experience. In his free time, he helps budding freelancers, and you can read about his journey on The Freelancer Diary.

Comments

  1. We usually play a game of cards; place abit of money on it, most people enjoy that :P. Tend to find that board games and video games are not as popular; no matter what the adverts show, middle age people are not that interested in the wii imo.

  2. I agree with Nthathu. There is really something about family gatherings–not just during Christmas–that brings out the best and the worst in each and every one of us. I like the idea of drinking alcohol in moderation. Alcohol has a great way of loosening our tongues and our inhibitions. It makes it a lot more difficult to stay polite and civil. Hope you have a Merry Christmas, Neeraj!
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  3. nice light hearted yet serious post. christmas gatherings do bring out the best and the worse in us..playing games is a good idea. Have you noticed how many TV adverts centered family games around the WII fit or hand held consule games…I guess thats the way games are played nowadays. Nice to have mixture of traditional board games and electronic ones. Merry Christmas!