I want to earn $100,000 by the end of the year.
I want to have a relaxing life and live by the sea in the Caribbean.
Can you see the contradiction here? Ok, some of the people that live and work online can attest to the idea that both these goals – in conjunction – are possible. Hell, I would like that too (though I might substitute Jamaica for somewhere cold)
Most of us look at two unconnected good things and try and join them up and include them in our lives. Unfortunately, these things require far more effort than we assume. Contradicting goals usually occur when achieving one set of goals is contradicting to our achievement of another. More money, less work; more personal space, more love; lots of free time, never bored – these are the kind of goals that defy rationality.
If you – like me and like most of us – have contradicting goals, you can do one of these two things to ensure that your goals are in line with your values and overall objective:
Sacrifice One of the Goals
Most people go for this option. They work long hours and stay away from their loved ones to earn more money. Now at no point this is a bad option. Sacrificing what you have for the sake of what you want is not unheard of, and certainly shows a strong sense of ambition. However, it can backfire in the long run. You might notice that your well crafted goals fall apart as you spend the latter part of your life trying to compensate for the goals that were initially neglected. Sacrificing what you already have is more difficult to do, especially once you become aware of the long-term consequences.
Balance Your Goals
On the other hand, you can try and balance your goals, and it is important to bring highlight this again. Balance, especially in pursuit of multiple goals concurrently, is essential. It is easy to sacrifice one of the goals in pursuit of another, but as pointed out before, it can be a destructive option over longer time period. Instead, if we try and take the path less traveled and balance our goals, we will do much better. Balancing goals would involve giving nearly equal attention to all our goals to ensure that everything keeps going in tandem together.
Having contradicting goals does not mean that we have made bad choices – it just means that we are driven to capture the essence of life from more than a single direction. Earning money and living in Caribbean are two contradicting yet completely achievable goals – you just have to believe you can achieve them together.
So do you think you have two or more contradicting goals? What are they? Tell us.
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