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Here at the NextGoal we like to offer you inspirational posts to support and encourage you to take the next step to achieve your goals. We believe everything is possible and with the right frame work, support, patience and focus you can achieve all you desire.
Life Gets In The Way
However, as you know; stuff happens. Life gets in the way.
Have you ever been in the situation, when everything is flowing then out of the blue something totally unexpected occurs? An event or situation throws you completely of track? What happens then?
How do you cope, for example, when someone you love unexpectedly dies? How do live your life and carry on when someone you love dies?
How do you “get over” the loss of someone you love?
Everyone’s Experience of Grief is Unique
If you have lost someone, can you remember how you felt? Did you feel angry or guilty that you are alive whilst your loved one is dead? Or maybe you felt feel a sense of relief. Grief, how you response to loss varies from person to person.
My Experience of Grief
From personal experience, I know the sting of death. I felt sadness, pain and hurt. I remember feeling helplessness and fearful as I watched my dear younger cousin die and then just as I was “coming to terms” with Sherry’s death, the icicles formed around my heart when my brother died. And when I miscarried I cried silent tears and pretended everything was alright.
Everyone’s experience of grief is unique and personal to you. So what I feel, how I coped may be totally different from you.
Learning Through Grief
It was through my pain and loss that I regained my focus, my faith and desire to be more of who I am; it was through my sadness that I found the courage to leave my three daughters at home for 6 weeks whilst I travelled to India to train as a yoga teacher; it was through my desire to honour myself that I chose to resign from my safe job as a Probation Officer to “seek my bliss” as a Yoga Teacher and now its though journaling my grief that I wish to turn my passion for writing to inspire others, who may be mourning to find a sense of inner peace and maybe comfort in their grief. If you know someone, maybe a colleague or best friend who is mourning, you might wish to share the “Friendship” poem I wrote for my friend when her mother died.
Yoga and Journaling Got Me Through
Throughout all of my adventures, yoga and writing have been my steadfast friends and guide. It is through my yoga practice, breathing exercises and meditations that I found the strength, connections, support and love to rebuild my life. As a working mother it is rich to have the choices I now have – to wave my girls goodbye when they go to school and to be home when they get home, that’s priceless.
And on days when I feel crappy and low, my personal yoga practice and joy of writing strengthens my faith, keeps my mind open, my body flexible and gives me an inner glow.
My Gift To You Today…
Part of goal setting, is to pause, take stock and review how far you have come, and of course to celebrate your success. For me, having the courage to write and share my words is part of my celebration, part of my growth, sharing and healing. In that light I would like to share with you a poem I wrote a while back which shows me how far I have come and how far I still have to go.
I am not dead, so why speak about my life
I am not dead, so why write about my life?
..its because I am alive I have to write.
My breath is so precious
It’s my link with you, my brother and my sister
The breath of life
The kiss of life
I have had both
I have seen both
And know I live with both.
That was then
Now I am acknowledging the power of life over death
I used to be haunted by images of death
Now, its love’s light that I see.
My light, is so powerful
I bask in it’s glory.
As Brother Nelson said
“its our light which most frightens us”
But the fear is still there.
What is this cold, runny-feeling-in-my-tummy/
Only me – running away from myself.
We are all works in progress. Stuff happen; people die and leave us behind. Friendships change, relationships break down. Yet each and every one of us has the choice to pause, to reflect, carry on or stay caught up in our grief.
Our desire at the NextGoal is to serve as a catalyst for change, to be a portal where you can come, when stuff happens and you need that extra boost and quiet support and knowledge that whatever the situation, there is light at the end of the tunnel. All you have to do, is breathe and take the next baby step.
I wish you well and every joy on your next adventure.
And if you found this post useful please share and forward to your friends and family, you never know who’s heart you touch when you share.
I’d also love to hear from you. Maybe you have something special to share about your grief journey that affects how you are today. Kindly leave your comments in the comment box below.
Image-with thanks-Michelle Brea