Rahul Bhambhani talks of engaging the universal intuition; Franz Kafka listened: “You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.”
But what if you cannot hear, or sense, the universal intuition?
Advice given to “make a decision”, is often given by ‘friends’ exhorting someone into a change of lifestyle, or relatives trying to encourage a family member to take a leap and go for that ‘next step’. Are you one of those friends? Are you one of those family members trying to “decide?”
What does ‘decision’ actually mean? And what do most people think it means? Is this what you think it means: “a judgment made in a moment of time that changes all of the future.”
Is that really what a ‘decision’ is? When people say “Make a decision,” do they mean that one moment’s rash choice is to be the end of the choosing?
“Right, that’s decided, now let’s move on.”
“Congratulations on making that decision. Your life will never be the same again.”
Some decisions are indeed like that, such as the decision made on winning a coin toss to take the wind or not in the first half of a game. You can’t go back, and you make the best of the new or accepted circumstances whether or not the outcome is eventually favorable.
But many decisions are not like that. Certainly not any decision about your dreams, visions or goals
Dictionaries are useful sometimes in illuminating common errors of understanding.
Decision – the act or process of deciding
I highlighted process because for me that word is the heart of the definition.
I suggest that ALL important, significant or meaningful decisions are not just judgments made in a moment of time. Don’t we instinctively know this anyway? So why do we persist in telling others to just ‘make a decision?’ I know I’ve read and listened to a lot of that advice over the years. At least, to the point when I wondered why ‘making the decision’ didn’t seem to fix or change anything.
Eventually, I figured out that it’s because the nature of the decision, and its effect on us, lies in the meaning of the decision, not in the decision itself.
Sure, read that again.
Decisions aren’t singular events.
In this context, your ‘decision’ isn’t something you decide, do, and it’s done. No, if it’s about a goal, and you want that goal, your decision is your process. It’s your journey, your hardships and your victories. It’s what you do each minute of each day until you achieve that dream.
And should you stop deciding; if you take your eye off that dream, your chances of achieving it will melt away like snow in the sun.
Maybe later you’ll get what you wanted. Maybe another day, or in another year. Maybe you’ll grow old and ‘regret’, too.
You won’t get your goal until you decide daily to make a fresh commitment to continue your journey towards whatever it is that you want. The whole ‘Surviving the Blog‘ Challenge has been about setting and achieving goals. You’ll get more on Goal Getting here.
For example, a marriage remains one only as long as both parties want it. A decision “to be married” is retaken each day, whether done consciously or not. This is because the marriage is foremost a state of mind, much more than it is the legal status of the partners
We see this in our communities everyday as people take off their rings, or deny that they are married, because they no longer consider themselves to be, even though in fact they are still in that place their decision put them.
Don’t “make a decision.” Instead, get there by DOING a decision.
“I’m doing my decision to…”
And regarding your dream? The initial decision to pursue a vision is but the first and most minor decision in the whole process of getting to the place you’ve imagined. Your decision to go after a dream remains effective in helping you to get there, only as long as you continually remake the “vow.”
You must recommit continually, or your view of your new path will become obscured, by ‘life’.
This is perhaps the most common excuse offered when people who fall short of their objectives.
“Life got in the way…”
To avoid this, you have to decide daily to chase your dream. Maybe you have to decide hourly, if the going gets tough. Olympic athletes in the final seconds of a four year crusade are continuously reminding themselves that it’s all about the medal, as they exhaust their physical resources, and must run or skate the last lap using will-power alone.
Doing your decision gives that decision power. Every moment of re-commitment to your target makes it more likely that you will get there. Coaches ask – “who wants this the most?”
Are you the one who most wants your dream?
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