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Goal Seekers: Do You Need To “Make a Decision?”

Is “Make a Decision” the wrong advice?

Rahul Bhambhani talks of engaging the universal intuition; Franz Kafka listened: “You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen.  The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.”

But what if you cannot hear, or sense, the universal intuition?

Advice given to “make a decision”, is often given by ‘friends’ exhorting someone into a change of lifestyle, or relatives trying to encourage a family member to take a leap and go for that ‘next step’.  Are you one of those friends?  Are you one of those family members trying to “decide?”

What does ‘decision’ actually mean? And what do most people think it means?  Is this what you think it means: “a judgment made in a moment of time that changes all of the future.”

Is that really what a ‘decision’ is?  When people say “Make a decision,” do they mean that one moment’s rash choice is to be the end of the choosing?

“Right, that’s decided, now let’s move on.”

“Congratulations on making that decision. Your life will never be the same again.”

Some decisions are indeed like that, such as the decision made on winning a coin toss to take the wind or not in the first half of a game. You can’t go back, and you make the best of the new or accepted circumstances whether or not the outcome is eventually favorable.

But many decisions are not like that. Certainly not any decision about your dreams, visions or goals

Dictionaries are useful sometimes in illuminating common errors of understanding.

Decision – the act or process of deciding

I highlighted process because for me that word is the heart of the definition.

I suggest that ALL important, significant or meaningful decisions are not just judgments made in a moment of time.  Don’t we instinctively know this anyway?   So why do we persist in telling others to just ‘make a decision?’  I know I’ve read and listened to a lot of that advice over the years.  At least, to the point when I  wondered why ‘making the decision’ didn’t seem to fix or change anything.

Eventually, I figured out that it’s because the nature of the decision, and its effect on us, lies in the meaning of the decision, not in the decision itself.

Sure, read that again.

Decisions aren’t singular events.

In this context, your ‘decision’ isn’t something you decide, do, and it’s done. No, if it’s about a goal, and you want that goal, your decision is your process. It’s your journey, your hardships and your victories.  It’s what you do each minute of each day until you achieve that dream.

And should you stop deciding; if you take your eye off that dream, your chances of achieving it will melt away like snow in the sun.

Maybe later you’ll get what you wanted. Maybe another day, or in another year. Maybe you’ll grow old and ‘regret’, too.

You won’t get your goal until you decide daily to make a fresh commitment to continue your journey towards whatever it is that you want. The whole ‘Surviving the Blog‘ Challenge has been about setting and achieving goals.  You’ll get more on Goal Getting here.

For example, a marriage remains one only as long as both parties want it. A decision “to be married” is retaken each day, whether done consciously or not.  This is because the marriage is foremost a state of mind, much more than it is the legal status of the partners

We see this in our communities everyday as people take off their rings, or deny that they are married, because they no longer consider themselves to be, even though in fact they are still in that place their decision put them.

Don’t “make a decision.” Instead, get there by DOING a decision.

“I’m doing my decision to…”

And regarding your dream?  The initial decision to pursue a vision is but the first and most minor decision in the whole process of getting to the place you’ve imagined. Your decision to go after a dream remains effective in helping you to get there, only as long as you continually remake the “vow.”

You must recommit continually, or your view of your new path will become obscured, by ‘life’.

This is perhaps the most common excuse offered when people who fall short of their objectives.

“Life got in the way…”

To avoid this, you have to decide daily to chase your dream.  Maybe you have to decide hourly, if the going gets tough.  Olympic athletes in the final seconds of a four year crusade are continuously reminding themselves that it’s all about the medal, as they exhaust their physical resources, and must run or skate the last lap using will-power alone.

Doing your decision gives that decision power. Every moment of re-commitment to your target makes it more likely that you will get there. Coaches ask – “who wants this the most?”

Are you the one who most wants your dream?

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  1. Very good read, I like the way you define words. I think that is a much needed, I do the same. It helps clarify the discussion.
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  2. Hi Ant,
    I also agree with goal setting. Once we know where were going, the rest will fall into place. Back in 2008 I made a decision to become a successful internet marketer, and it is slowly happening.
    I look back over 6 months or so and if I am honestly working on the goal I usually see results.

    Thanks
    Robert

  3. Hi Ant

    Yes I agree you have to know you are on the right course. If you find that you are not achieving the results you want, they there may have to be a slight change to achieve your desired result.

    Some of our decisions have to be changed along the way but that is the process of learning.

    To YOUR success

    Sue
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  4. Hey Ant,

    I make decisions every single day. Right or wrong I make them! My main goal is to make those decisions, right or wrong and learn from them. We will never succeed if we don’t make decisions.

    Dennis
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  5. Hey Sue
    ‘A ship without a rudder’ – great analogy. I’d add that it’s not just about ‘having goals.’

    You really got to know that you’re on the right course, or you’ll lose heart when the storms come.
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    • Or at least believe the journey’s half the fun, right?

      How you weather the storms – how you handle being lost – can also make the difference. Think of Columbus. He didn’t ever make it to India by sailing west, did he? There was plenty of discouragement along the way. Arguably, he had a lot of success (and some pretty stunning failures). But he had adventures, he had success, and he’s remembered to this day.

      And he pretty much got LOST.
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  6. Hi Ant

    I really believe in setting goals otherwise there is no journey. You are like a rudderless ship. A goal gives me direction.Just like a road map to me. Know what you want them set about getting it.

    To Your success

    Sue
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  7. I do find goals a long way off sometimes. Always ‘just out of reach’ I think we do ourselves service to remember Earl Nightingale’s words:

    “The strangest secret is that we become what we think about, most of the time.”

    That’s reconfirming goals; doing decisions. It works, when you know what you want, and when what you want is in sync with YOU. But that’s another story.

    Thank you for you r insights, Ntathu.

    Anthony
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  8. Good informative read and definitely a new angle for me on the meaning of making a decision. You are right it is a process and you continuously remind yourselves why you are doing xyz -especially when end seems so far away.