Which Path Do You Choose When The Going Gets Tough?


Which Path Do You Choose?

When faced with a difficult decision, what do you do? How do you decide which path to take? Are you a logical type person who needs to have all the facts and figures or are you so in tune with life, you intuitively know which path you must take?

How do you decide to take one path instead of another? Do you make a decision or are you like most people afraid,

Afraid to choose in case you take the “wrong path” and lose out?


What Happens When You Fail To Chose?


In life there are no certainties. In fact, I am sure you have heard the phrase; the only thing certain in life is death. If this is the case, ase is the case, why do we, as humans, struggle to choose, ponder high and low; waste hours of our precious time searching for answers when all you have to do is choose.


What Is So Difficult About Choosing?


Fear is the reason for not choosing. Every emotion, thought, word or deed is driven by our deep-seated need to be part of the crowd, accepted and loved. To belong, to be “somebody”.


Everyone wants to feel valued, appreciated and loved. And we spend our whole life searching for that one special person to make our lives feel full; or we buy another pair of shoes or fancy kitchen gadget to satisfy that need.


What Is It That Drives The Human Spirit To Be Loved?


Strip away all your fineries and what do you have you left? How do you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror? What thoughts greet you? Do you smile, glad, happy at your reflection or do you cast a frown, recall all the times someone called you fat, piggy ears, nappy hair or ugly?


It isn’t easy to let go of the need to be accepted yet when you do, when you take that leap of faith and release your attachment to safety and security you will discover an even greater need. The need for freedom, adventure, excitement. You were born to fly, to be great, to be a pioneer. When you limit yourself, stick to the safety and security of everyday habits, you deny yourself and others the opportunity to see life beyond your current situation.


Life has blessed you with an open heart, a curious mind, a body and soul. As they say, use it or lose it. Take a chance. Dare to be different. Get your house in order, step out and embrace a newer you.

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About Ntathu Allen

Yoga Teacher, Blogger and mum to three bubbly teens, I aspire to support, educate and encourage busy mums and working women to weave moments of calm into their hectic schedule.

About Ntathu Allen

Yoga Teacher, Blogger and mum to three bubbly teens, I aspire to support, educate and encourage busy mums and working women to weave moments of calm into their hectic schedule.


  1. for me its the path that would be the best for the situation no matter if it hurts
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  2. When contemplating a new direction, there comes a point when I realize that I have investigated and questioned as much as I can and I know as much as I can know. The time for decision has arrived and I must choose to go forward or to go back. I hate being afraid even more than I hate failing, so I often choose to go forward.


  3. beautiful post Ntathu, you are so right we have no choice but to move forward and experience change, I would agree with the philosophy of Mr Branson “Screw it let’s do it”! Only by starting to walk down the path can we know if it is the correct path or not!
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  4. Powerful words Ntathu, thank you.

  5. Age, and maturity and wisdom, that accompanies it, makes it easier to take the unpopular path.

  6. Well written. Although you did write about why it is hard to make decisions and how we all feel the need to be accepted, I would have appreciated the post more had you been elaborate on overcoming it. This post does make one realise how we are controlled by public scrutiny, but I wish it helped in improving our own outlook towards ourselves.

  7. If all else fails, flip a coin – asking someone else is a cop out!

    Cheers John

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    • Do you really think so, John? I don’t know – I think the coin toss is MORE of a cop-out. But in the end, you still decide. Heads or tails? With or against? Whether to trust the friend’s opinion – or not. A coin toss doesn’t really add any more data points, unless you’re superstitious or truly don’t care about the outcome at all.

  8. I’ve used my intuition since I was young. It has enabled me to step out and do some things that may have seemed a little crazy at the time but led to the place I am now. I’ve changed my career on purpose and I left a marriage that provided much security once because I knew I need to find my higher sense of self and happiness.

    I can honestly say that yes, I have felt fear especially on my last big one which was selling most of my things including my house and moving across an Ocean, but it has all been worth it. I highly recommend choosing a road that is the one for you not the one you think you should or the one other people think you should.

    Aloha Wags!
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    • Faith. Wow, took my breath away to read your words. Its great when you allow yourself to be guided and breathe through your fear. Well done in simplifying your life-big step and keep it going. Thanks for sharing your world.

  9. Wow this is full of powerful stuff. I get nervous when I begin stripping my layers;) I’m all for fun and adventure. Thanks for your insights and wisdom. I appreciate the your work.

  10. Wow this is full of powerful stuff. I get nervous when I begin stripping my layers;) I’m all for fun and adventure. Thanks for your insights and wisdom. I appreciate the your work.

    • good to hear from you Tess,yes it is scary when we start to strip our layers…scary but oh such fun and and joy when we stand in our power. Thanks for being so open and sharing your insights.Hugs

  11. Great advice and strategies. Thank you
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  12. I’m really old so I make intuitive decisions based on my cumulative experience. I’ve found that making decisions becomes easier every day. I make the same number of mistakes but, my Border Collie could care less and I get the attention of Family and friends more often as they correct me.

    I love this post and the comments!


    • I think age and experience have the power to magically transform us – or at least make us comfortable saying, “So what? So what if I look silly? So what if I fail? I’ve done that a few times before. Didn’t kill me. Hey, this looks like fun. I wanna try.”

    • Bless You Dave, yes I agree with Holly, age and experience certainly make it easier for us to let go. I often look at my mum and see how relaxed and casual she is with some of the things my daughters say to her. And yes friends and family are only too glad to step in and offer their advise and correct you! Great strategy there Dave for keeping family engaged and communicating with each other.

  13. I firmly believe that everything in life happens for a reason. I made decisions based on the information I have, and then leap with my heart. Even when the decision isn’t always the best, I learn from it. I don’t fear mistakes as much as I fear indecision. Love the blog 🙂
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    • definitely agree Dawn, indecision is such an energy zapper.9/10 when i fluff around and dont make a decision I get more worked up than if I just went ahead and did it. Like you, am old enough and have made enough “mistakes” to know one way or the other I always bounce back. Enjoy your day

  14. this is lovely i feel personally that i recently let go and im just me ive embraced the ‘newer me’ and i feel way happier for it 🙂 awesome blog btw

    • So lovely to hear you are stepping out of your comfort zone and embracing the newer me. I like you use of the word “newer me”..sounds like a more improved, brighter/better/updated version of your true self. Go for it my dear. Keep an eye out on our site for more tips and strategies to help support you spring from the “newer you”

  15. As you mentioned, the moment of absolute certainty never arrives. Do enough research to feel relatively comfortable with your choice, and then act.

    One of my favorite quotes:
    “When you get to the end of all the light you know and it’s time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: either you will be given something solid to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly.”
    ? Edward Teller

    • Pessimism is believing you’ll end up like the guy pictured on Larry’s running post. 🙂 I think most parents have figured out how to jump into the unknown and stop waiting for the “perfect time.” There’s NO perfect time to have children. It’s one thing to “plan” to have a family or not, but planning for a time that may never come, racing against biological realities, is kind of sad, sometimes. The “perfect time” for anything is generally a myth, and the closest we come to it is when we reach out in faith and grab the brass ring as it’s flying past – almost instinctively, which is why fear can be so crippling. Sometimes fear is learned – not really instinctive. And sometimes, it’s just unproductive. When my kids hesitate in decisionmaking, sometimes I’ll just reduce it to a fine point: “What’s the absolute WORST thing that can happen if you try this? Will anyone DIE? Will anyone get seriously HURT?” If the answer is no, then I urge them to try. More often than not, the results build confidence.

    • So true. At the end of the day we do have to have at least an ounce of “faith” to get up and make a change,do something different. Yet sometimes I wonder if that is enough? I know lots of people who are extremely religious,say they believe in God, yet somehow dont seem to have the courage to get up and do something different. It is like they stay in same rut and say “God will provide”. I am sure he does, but a helping hand from us,surely must make God’s life a bit easier?