Have you seen a film called ‘The Shape of Things’?
IMDB categorizes this as a comedy-drama, with a hint of romance; but I think the film is much more than these categorizations (as is life, right?).
The film title actually puts the ideas (on the subject) into perspective – The Shape of Things. Most of us are so obsessed with the surface of things, that we forget what is underneath. It takes strict meditation, regimented daily exercise, introspection and sometimes even weekly visits to psychologists to appreciate the body that we have. Even though these aspects of pseudo-socializing and self-observation hold due importance in our life, why do we let our physical appearance dominate our inward appearance?
Let me tell you this – unless you drink like a fish, smoke like a chimney or eat like a pig – it is very likely that you have a healthy body. Obviously, sometimes people get diagnosed with unexpected illnesses, some of which are terminal. When my uncle was diagnosed with Leukemia (AML), there was little we could do for a healthy 65 year old. Even two rounds of golf a week, healthy eating, relaxing holidays and a loving partner cannot turn around our terminal, physical misfortunes.
We complain about how bad we look and about how our body is slowly dying as we grow older. This is something we all need to wake up and face up to – as one gets older, our body undergoes physical changes that can be slowed through healthy and plentiful living, but the ageing process cannot be reversed. Death and Taxes are inevitable. So enjoy every aspect of your body, be thankful of what you have. If you really think you have it tough, check out this guy. See how your life compares to his. I am certain that he is happier than anyone would have expected him to be.
Would you change yourself for anyone?
Now I must remind you that this question is asked in the context of your body. Would you change how you look or the way you dress if someone close to you suggested so?
Chances are, someone probably has – maybe it was your partner, maybe one of your parents, or maybe even your PE teacher. We all are so obsessed with the shape of things, that we judge a book by its cover. It is easy to look at someone on the subway or in the supermarket and assume everything about them.
That is why we dress well.
That is partly why we want to look fit and healthy, more so than feel fit and healthy. Our sub-conscious pushes us to prove ourselves to others on a daily basis. In this Rat Race, being healthy and self-sufficient is not as important as looking better than the person standing next to you.
To that, I say: No worries. We all have some personal standards to live up to. We all have different social standings and wish to maintain that through our life. But what I urge you to do is respect your body, appreciate it, and even love it. This cliché gets thrown around a lot, but let me tell you – you are unique! You don’t have to be perfectly built to enjoy life. You don’t have to have a 6-pack to attract women. You don’t need to have a stick-like figure to feel wanted.
In answer to my previous question, it is ok to change for someone. However, before you jump head-first into revamping yourself, think about this: Will the change be helpful to you? What is the objective of the change – is it betterment of your mind, body and spirit? If so, feel free to change, feel free to improve, but remember to put your heart into it.
In the end, I will leave you with this quote from The Shape of Things:
As my subject became handsomer and firmer and more confident, his actions became more and more questionable. Against medical advice, he had work done to his face and insisted to those around him that he had merely fallen down. He also started to deceive his friends and myself with greater abandon during this period, while showing increased interest in other women…..He is a living, breathing example of our obsession with the surface of things, the shape of them.
Don’t let change….change you.
So will you change for the better? How do you plan to change your appearance, if at all? Share with us.