Do you like setting goals? How good are you at achieving what you set out to accomplish? Do you give up half way or do you battle on and stick to your vision through thick and thin?
Like most of you, I set goals. Some I achieve, others I lose sight of and they get lost in this mystery we call life. Maybe you want to lose weight, get fitter, or save more money; whatever it is you desire, you need to have a system, a way of working which makes it easier for you to set and achieve your goals.
If you haven’t read it, then this post will give you an insight into five common mistakes people make when they set goals. Following the advice in this one, you will have a head start on knowing what to avoid and what to do to achieve your goals.
Five Common Mistakes To Avoid When Setting Your Goals
1. You Lack Focus
Focus is everything. I am sure you have heard of the saying, what you focus on you become so, if your desire is to lose weight you need to spend time and energy doing the correct things to achieve that outcome. It is too easy to say I want to lose 7lbs yet if you continue to mindlessly snack and eat unhealthy food you won’t lose the weight.
How Do You Focus?
In this age of multi-tasking, it is easy to be pulled in all directions, trying to keep your boss, clients, family and partner happy. It takes a lot of effort to achieve anything if your energy is scattered. Learn to focus. Chose one thing you wish to achieve, for example, you may desire to be “healthier”. Chose one aspect of being healthier – maybe going to bed by 10.30pm or spending ten minutes every lunch hour going for a stroll around the block. Just choose one activity. Set a time boundary and stick to that one goal. You will find it easier to achieve one simple task than trying to fit in half a dozen or so changes at once.
2. You Are Inflexible
It is good to have a focused and determined mindset, but have you ever met someone who is so stubborn and stuck in their approach that they refuse to consider any other route to achieve their goal. The journey is part of the process. In the course of working towards your goal, other options may present themselves and you need to be able to adapt and adjust your strategy without losing sight of your overall goal.
3. You Lack Faith
Faith can be regarded as complete trust, hope and belief in something. To succeed in life, you need faith in your ability to achieve your goals or you need someone to believe in you. I know from personal experience, there have been instances in my life when I want to do something, yet the little voice inside says no ,you can’t do that; yet a friend will pass by and through talking they will encourage me to take the first step. I remember, when I decided to travel to India to train as a Yoga Teacher, much as I really wanted to go I worried about leaving my daughters for six weeks. Thankfully, my friends and family all rallied around, encouraged me to go and assured me the girls will be fine and well looked after. Their faith in me and understanding of what I wanted to achieve, gave me the boost I needed to leave my girls for 6 weeks and travel.
4. Your Goal Is Boring and Has No Meaning For You
Something I picked up from Holly’s article was the need for your goal to be relevant and meaningful for you. Life is hard enough. Changing your behaviour can seem like a punishment or too steep a climb for you. For your goal to stick you have to make your goal meaningful to you; plus you need to build in pleasurable fun activities to celebrate each mini mile-stone you achieve. For example if your goal is to stop smoking, give yourself a treat, maybe have a massage or meal out with friends to celebrate your first week of being smoke free.
5. You Fail To Follow Through
A lot of people make this mistake. Have you ever had a great idea? Or someone, maybe your coach or mentor, suggest you try a particular course of action. However, you fail to take the advice offered which makes it harder for you to accomplish your goal. To achieve your goals, you need to learn to act on advice and information received. Even if the information proves to be a waste of time, don’t dismiss it out of hand. Hear what the other person has to say, do your own research and then either ditch or accept the information.
Can you think of any other explanation why you fail to achieve your goals? I am sure there are other reasons. Have a think and feel free to share your views in the box below.
Take special care and thank you