Often in life, you will come across that stage where you feel bogged down by the myriad choices – more than one way of achieving your goals. We all have a certain sense of hard-wired, biological instinct that spurs us into action, fuels our ambition with an unabated greed for something good and the unfinished lure of something bigger and better.
So here’s the deal – you are stuck with a very difficult decision to make; it could make or break your next goal. On one hand, you can go all-out to force a positive career result, but it could mar your family life. Still, you will have the satisfaction of fulfilling your lifelong dream. On the other hand, you can sit back and indefinitely postpone your dream, your ambitions, just so that you will not, in any way, hurt the people close to you.
Which road do you take?
Whichever choice you make in life, one thing is for certain – you and you alone will have to live with it. Detractors and conformists will come and go, some will pelt rocks at you, and other will lay your path with beautiful red rose petals. Yet when your clock ticks its last, it will be just you, lying there–with any luck, not kicking and screaming. Which brings us to the question – are you happy with your life?
Are you? Chances are, even if you are not happy on your deathbed, you were once savoring your life for all it had to offer. What set you apart then? Did you have that evolutionary killer-instinct?
Google has been notorious about buying out smaller companies that could challenge its status in the web world. Talks are now in place to buy Yahoo! So what do most people think about this deal? As with everything, there are two schools of thought:
- Google should let the weaker competitor survive. Google should become stronger by making itself better, not by killing off the competition.
- Google has the financial and technical know-how to dominate the web world, and it should. Google can provide a sense of discipline to an otherwise chaotic environment.
Both of these are valid points, but which one does Google subscribe to?
Do you think the heads at Google will read this or any other post that debates the point about Yahoo’s acquisition? Chances are they won’t. They don’t have the time and resources to track down every single detractor and justify their actions by engaging in debate.
Neither should you.
Often in your life, you will have to step on someone to get somewhere. If you consider yourself an ethical person and calculate all your actions so as to not hurt a single soul, I must warn you: You WILL hurt someone. It won’t be intentional, but these things happen.
Being ambitious with raw killer-instinct is one mark of a strong character trait. As long as you don’t go around aimlessly swinging your Machete at whoever’s in front of you, and provided your goal is not to trample others and climb their lifeless bodies in your hasty rise up the mountain of success, there is nothing wrong with ambition and competitive instinct. But you will have to make some difficult choices – you will have to choose one course of action, or one person, instead of the other. Some of these important choices include choosing between career and family, choosing between ethics or shareholders, or choosing between sharing this post and not sharing it. Either way, you are damned to disappoint someone – be it yourself or another – or to foreclose one opportunity by choosing to take another. You are now better informed and will live with the knowledge that you could have made a small difference by taking action, or by not taking it.
Just don’t live with regrets. Know that what you did in any situation was the best you could have done, given the circumstances. All of us wish to go back and change time and our actions, only a few accept things the way they are and move forward.
Be one of them.
Tweet about this post and spread the message, make a difference. If you don’t someone else will come along and do it anyway, but would you not want to be responsible for changing someone’s life for better?
Be that person.
Tell us of one thing you really wish to change in your life. And then think hard and tell us if changing that would make your life as good as you expect it to be.