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5 Tips to Smile When It Is Hard To

So here we are again, me twisting your arm to do something that you, at some point in time, find hard to do.

Smile

Smile like you mean it

Sure, you might be going through a difficult phase, it might just be one of those days, or you simply don’t give a damn! But would you not agree that you want to be happy? I often find myself walking steadfast towards my destination, hardly paying any attention to those around me. I always outpace those next to me. It isn’t that I like to walk fast; I just don’t feel the need to look at people, look at everyone around me. As a consequence of this, I hardly smile when I could be smiling. Do you feel the same? Do you feel that you could do with some cheering up, a smile that could make you more approachable for others?

If so, let me tell you a big secret: smiling is the first and last step to happiness. Don’t believe me?

How do you know when you are happy? It happens when you get that warm, fuzzy feeling inside, a feeling that gives you sense of completeness. Moreover, you know when you feel good as you get that upside-down curve on your lips – a smile. Voila! But how can smiling make you feel happy?

Well, when someone tells you good news, what do you do? You smile.

What do you do when you win a prize? You smile.

What do you do when you win a race? You smile.

This is followed by that much wanted feeling of happiness. See my point?

So here are 5 tips to quickly turn that frown upside down, smile a little, and feel happy, even when there isn’t a reason to be!

Imagine Something Funny: I am serious. Think of a joke you were told a while ago, something that was personal, and made you smile. Think of that joke and you will feel the same warm feeling again. Before you can help it, you will be aimlessly smiling, conjuring something funny inside to keep your mood light and spirits high.

Notice ‘Caring’ Around You: Where ever you are, you will notice other people around you (unless you are camping in the forests of Finland, and I have done that). If you do, you will also notice their humanity towards others – bask in that. Appreciate their overture towards other people. Caring is one of the strongest human emotion, something you are born with and born into. You will feel positive and happy when you see people around you caring for each other. You will smile.

Sing and Dance: I remember standing in a busy bus station at Stockholm at 9 in the evening. It was cold, very cold – like -25C with wind chill. Other than keeping me warm, dancing was a great stress buster and made me and others around me smile straight away. A nice girl also started dancing with me. So do something crazy – sing, dance, hum a tune loudly. You’d be surprised how quickly that will cheer you up.

Carry a joke book with you: You can find many pocket-size joke books in your local book store. If you feel tense, if you feel stressed, just flip any page open and read a joke or two. Before you purchase the book, make sure you like some of the jokes in there. You won’t like all, but just browsing will give you a good idea. Reading jokes is a quick and easy way to engage your mind and smile!

Think of The Good Times: The easiest and most effective option. No matter what stage you are in right now, you have been in a good mental state. A walk with your partner, watching your son play with his first toy truck, hitting the ball out of the park, anything that puts a smile on your face. Think of that. Just make sure you don’t get trapped there, especially if the past links to something problematic. Smiling is easy when its natural, when you think of something good that happened before, that is as close as you will come to natural smiling. Use that.

I hope you find these tips helpful.

Did you think I missed something? Do you have something to add or something to share? Feel free to leave a comment below.

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About Neeraj Sachdeva

Neeraj is a life-geek, who enjoys talking about Psychology and Freelancing. His freelancing endeavor focuses on kick-starting start-ups and small businesses by using practical and timely experience. In his free time, he helps budding freelancers, and you can read about his journey on The Freelancer Diary.

About Neeraj Sachdeva

Neeraj is a life-geek, who enjoys talking about Psychology and Freelancing. His freelancing endeavor focuses on kick-starting start-ups and small businesses by using practical and timely experience. In his free time, he helps budding freelancers, and you can read about his journey on The Freelancer Diary.

Comments

  1. Great tips.. Especially loved the thinking of good times one.. 😉

  2. Not enough people take the time to notice people being happy. To “notice caring around you” is basically to appreciate the good things people do. It’s important to not let yourself get overwhelmed by the bad things.

    Look at what the news does- centering on tragedies and the worst in people, and do the opposite in your day to day life. You need some balance, right?
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    • Very true Rob. Positive environment is very important. News is now centered on tragedies, they do sell. And yes, we need something to balance it. I just switch on a comedy when things get tough, it helps! Incidentally, I checked out your website, looks pretty good and similar to ours, I will have to spend some time exploring 🙂
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